A digital world…..

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Having just finished watching ‘Her’, I have to say it left me a little cold. I’ve been a digital specialist and lover of all technological developments for years now so I was surprised at how empty this film was. It is very possible that I missed the whole point seeing as it was very slow, long and extremely beige in colour, but it did start to make me wonder how much (or indeed, how little) emphasis we put on the real, physical elements of our lives.

Nearly all of us have Facebook and Twitter and most of us have Instagram. However, it seems the more technology is created, the quicker we become bored of it and seek out new realms of pleasure. The latest one I’m seeing people rave about is Tinder. This is a dating site, akin to Grinder, but for straight people. I can’t say I’ve been on it, but from what I hear it sounds a bit like a sticker album of singletons – a place where physical beauty gets you selected and anything less than that leaves you on the shelf. I may be being too critical here, but it is the same premise as ‘Her’. The main protagonist is unable to have real, physical relationships without picking holes in his significant other and, inevitably, pushing her away. Instead he turns to an ‘OS’ or Operating System.

He gets to choose her voice and the topics of conversation they have and ends up falling in love with, what is essentially, his own creation. The scariest thing about this whole movie is that I can see this happening. People are already able to command their computers and consoles with voice activation so how long will it be before we can create virtual partners? Someone who is always there when we need them, has access to the whole World Wide Web to obtain any information we require, and who has studied human behaviour so closely that they know exactly what to say and how to soothe us. The female OS in ‘Her’ is a bit like the robot in ‘Short Circuit’ – able to read books in seconds and offer advice based on what she has gleaned from her vast knowledge bank. She is even able to feign emotions based on studies and scientific research she has digested and spit out.

The whole film makes you realise what fools we can be as humans. That we are not as evolved as we make out and that all we really want in life is to love and be loved in return. The problem is that life and love are not that simple. I suppose that is what makes it fascinating, overwhelming and crucial to our existence, however, it is terrifying how much we crave to be a part of a couple and don’t, truly, feel content as an individual. We seek reassurance in everything we do (sometimes without knowing it) and we want to be the best at everything, including being the best partner for somebody – their one and only.

This film was really educational for me as it made me realise that we need to place more emphasis on being the best version of ourselves (I’ve mentioned this in other blogs and am sticking to my guns on this point!) We need to mend the cracks in our own selves before looking to someone else to do it for us. Relationships often fail and this is just a fact of life, but the relationships that last, and are good, do so because the people entering into it are content in themselves. They don’t feel the need to change the other person and accept their flaws along with their strengths. It is about finding someone who reinforces your strengths and doesn’t judge you for your weaknesses. This is what makes a lasting, loving relationship. It has taken me a long time to work this one out and is something I’m still working on, but I know that whatever happens in my own relationship I will be OK because I know myself and I never forget what I was like before that person came along. I know that my partner enhances me and my life, but he doesn’t make me who I am. The same can be said for him and how I am towards him. I accept him, warts and all, and don’t bother trying to change him (even though aspects of him truly irk me!) because he is who he is and if he can accept me, warts and all, then we are a good team. We support each other as best friends and don’t just concentrate on the outer shell. By trying to preserve what is INSIDE that shell, we have created something better than any computer system could replicate…….reality.

Reality is scary, but it is also tangible and losing that would be truly heartbreaking. Maybe we should focus more on what we can do ourselves rather than looking at technology to do it for us. I’ll always love technology and am fascinated by how it can save lives through operations and 3D transplants, as well as offering light entertainment. However, I’ll always love reality and how it makes me feel. Without human emotions we would be truly lost.

Light and love, people. Mimi Cat xox

Living life in hues of pastel……

I’ve been a massive fan of pastel shades for a while now and decided to take my passion that little bit further and get lavender hair. Yes, I am taking the advice of my last post and being a bit more unicorn!

My wonderful friend is a hairdresser and he has been a miracle worker getting my bright red (dyed) hair to silvery/lavender in only two sessions. I’m absolutely in love with it so went out and bought a few accessories to match!

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I keep my hair all lavender and lovely by using Fudge Clean Blonde Toning Shampoo. It’s bright purple in colour and can stain things so use it with caution, but it takes out any brassiness from the hair and adds a lavender touch to it. It also smells like fudge so it is a winner with me! I love all of the products in the Fudge range and have previously mentioned the high shine spray for keeping certain styles in check. You can pick them up from your local salon or on Amazon (Note – it doesn’t come with a free purple Jesus, but he’s so sparkly and purple he had to be included!)

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Now, I don’t often go into Primark, but I have to say they do a pretty mean pastel collection at the moment. I picked up this jumper for £7. Can’t say fairer than that!

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I also have yet to get round to posting about my love of Etsy, but here is just a little example of why it is one of my favourite places to shop – these rings from I’m Your Present are very cute and the whole set came to £7. I think I’ll wear them all at once as I can’t decide on my favourite!

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Finally, my pom pom headband came from ASOS (another firm favourite of mine). It was £10 and comes in different colours. I will do my hair properly to wear it in future, but couldn’t wait to show you my outfit today. Lipstick is from my absolute favourite cosmetic company – Lime Crime and is a shade called ‘Chinchilla’. Not your every day lipstick, maybe, but I find a way to include it 😉

Light and love, people. Mimi Cat xox

When I grow up…..

Recently I seem to have written a lot of retrospective posts. Posts about how I expected my life to be and things I still have the power to change. It may be obvious that I’m turning 30 this year, however, it also got me thinking on a less deep level. Having watched ‘Despicable Me’ several times over the past year (it seems to forever be on ITV!!) one of the scenes struck a chord – when Agnes prays for a lovely family and happiness and then ends it with “and a pet unicorn” before singing the above unicorn song. It really reminded me of me when I was little. I used to wish for the most bizarre things, knowing, on some level, that I would never get those things, but still having hope that I MIGHT! How I would love to be that innocent again…..so I’m going to try. On many levels I still haven’t grown out of that childlike mentality that the things I wish for may never come true, but that doesn’t stop me from wishing them in the first place.  I also adore all things unicorn (Yes, I AM aware they are a mystical creature that only have a place in fairy tales, but that’s part of the charm).  I have decided that this childlike quality is actually an endearing one and not weird. Unicorns have many things going for them that we could maybe incorporate into our adult lives.

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Unicorns have a radiant, spiralling horn on their foreheads and are often represented in books in pastel shades. They are by no means your average animal. They strive to be different. They strive to be fabulous, unique and just a teensy bit feisty (you wouldn’t want to mess with something with a horn so beautifully dangerous!) I have always loved the idea of dress-up. The idea that you can be anything you want to be and wear anything you want to. However, dress-up is just for that period of time, that party or event. Then you have to go back to your real life and be serious, sensible and take responsibility for your actions. BORING! Why not add a bit of unicorn to your life every day. OK, so I don’t mean you should dress like this every day (though my hair is going to be like this by the end of the week):

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BUT….you can add a splash of colour and mystery to your life whenever you want to for as long as you like. Even if you just wear bright coloured or patterned undies then at least YOU know you’re being a rebel, even if noone else does. I think my point is that it is all about your attitude that can affect the person you are and how you are perceived. I’m definitely perceived as a big kid, but that means that people see me as fun, quirky and a little bit outrageous. Those who know me, though, also know that these qualities are what make me so creative and good at what I do for a living. They also know that I can be relied on and sensible when it is required of me. I think being mulit-faceted (like a diamond….ba-boom!) is probably the best unicorn quality one person could have. Let’s all try to be a bit more unicorn and stop feeling weighed down by the pressures of life and trying desperately to define yourself. There’s no need…..you can be as many versions of yourself as you like whenever it is required. Just know that, whatever you do/however you do it, do it with a big:

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I can’t wait for my custom Unicorn dress to be made by the wonderful Eustratia – more on this when it arrives! Light and love, people. Mimi Cat xox

Janoski for Nike……

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Stefan Janoski  is an American professional Imageskateboarder, artist, writer, and musician. His signature Nike SB trainers are generally quite tame, but then he launched these!

I’m not ordinarily a fan of neon colours. As a child of the 80s I feel I’ve had my day-glo days and feel no real need to revisit them, but there’s just something about these Janoski’s I love!

The tiger stripes compliment the neon colours perfectly and make them seem less ‘in your face’. They go with a surprising amount of clothes (I know I say this a lot and maybe they just go with my wardrobe because it is full of crazy colours and styles, but I think even the tamer trainer wearer will find them easy to style). I opted for the black laces to start with, but they also come with neon yellow ones. Maybe I’ll rock these out come summer!

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Although I love how these trainers look, they hurt like hell to wear. Apparently Janoski’s are really tight as standard (I’ve been assured they will give with time), but they pinch a lot and should be worn in in short bursts at first. Don’t be tempted to go a size up just so they fit more comfortably. They will then  give too much and become loose.

If you fancy giving them a go then check out the Welcome Skate store site for these and many more. The staff are really helpful and know their stuff too!

Dance like noone is watching

When I first saw this video I was really surprised by how much coverage it received in the press. Then I thought about it and marvelled at the woman who was clearly in the zone and throwing caution to the wind when she started dancing at the bus stop.

Thinking noone is watching is the most liberating feeling in the world. We’ve all done it….danced in our living rooms, bust out a little move whilst walking to the bus stop or, my personal favourite, when pushing a shopping trolley through the supermarket (standing on the wheels and whizzing down the aisles takes me straight back to being 4 years old!) Everyone seems so afraid that someone will do something if they are caught acting out of social “norms”. It’s actually ridiculous.

I may be quite unusual in my behaviours (I know this to be true from the reactions of strangers and people I know alike!) However, I think it is extremely important to express yourself on a regular basis. As I wander along to work with my huge Hello Kitty headphones on (yes, they have ears and a bow too!) I will often do a little dance or sing along to the song I’m listening to. If people will stare then give them something to stare AT. What exactly is so scary about doing what everyone else WANTS to do?!

Maybe it is easier said than done. I did, after all, used to dress myself from a very young age. One of my most memorable outfits was a pink tutu, red wellies and pearls. Accessoried to the max and totally unaware that what I was wearing wasn’t acceptable attire – I was just dressing in what I wanted to wear that day and was innocent to social standards. I miss those days! I’m now totally aware of what is socially acceptable and not, yet I tend to fly in the face of this anyway. Hey, I looked good back then!

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More of us should take heed from the lady in the video who, let’s face it, got so much praise for her bus stop dance, and start dancing like noone is watching. Try losing your inhibitions for just one day and see how fun life can be when you change the simple things and break free from how we’re socially conditioned to behave.

Light and love, people. Mimi Cat xox